HOW TO MAKE YOUR PARTNER’S HOUSE FEEL LIKE YOUR HOME TOO
Recently, as my husband and I sat in our kitchen, he said — I love our life and our home. It’s simple, but we have everything we need.
Shut the front door, Dante, was what I was thinking. I mean, this shocked me. When we first moved into ‘my’ house, Dante got on my nerves talking about getting another home. 🙄🙄🙄 — BUT, over our first year of marriage, we made my home, our home. *Tears* And I can’t explain what it’s like to experience BUT ALSO to see our lives merge on so many levels.
Marriage is ahmazing — CORRECTION: BEING MARRIED TO DANTE IS AHMAZING.
Looking back, we really worked to make our house a home, and if we can do it, so can you!!!
If you are marrying someone and moving into ‘their’ home, use what we did to help ease your process. Here are three things to help you love and not hate your decision to move in together. *smiles*
#1 It will take time for both of you to replace ‘I, mine, + me with ‘Us, ours, + we.’ Don’t take it personally.
#2 You can’t keep everything, meaning all of your belongings, BUT you can’t get rid of everything either. So, try to hold off on getting rid of each other’s stuff too quickly. Some things have more emotional value than monetary worth. Either way, be open to talking about the real cost and the heart value of your belongings. And tell your partner how you feel about your stuff – they ain’t no mind reader!
#3 Do projects together to make it feel more like home. You will find that making moments and experiencing new things can deepen your bond and build intimacy. Together, Dante and I planted a flower garden, two vegetable gardens, and completed a flooring project.
By the way — YOU CAN make a space you don’t own your own, like this:
- Plant a potted garden on your porch or balcony.
- Create a photo collage of your fav memories, both old and new.
- Start super simple with a new shower curtain (isn’t that like the first thing everyone buys when they move into a new place anyways)!
My point is this, get creative together 😆😆😆 to make moving into someone else’s house easier and a home that you feel like is yours too.
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