SEX AS A WEAPON
Sex Is A Weapon explores the pros and cons of using sex as a weapon to promote healthy marriages, which is probably not what you expected to hear.
And we get it! Typically, when you read, see, or hear, “sex is a weapon,” your mind goes a few places:
First — sex shouldn’t be a weapon in a relationship, and you shouldn’t withhold yourself from your partner.
Or — yeah, sex does make people feel better, so we should use it to our advantage.
But for us, when we say sex is a weapon, we’re talking about using intimacy to cultivate a deeper connection and fight covenant-breaking attacks against your marriage.
SEX BUILD CONNECTIONS
Per neuroscientist, Daniel Levitan,
“When a person has an orgasm, oxytocin is released, and one of the effects of oxytocin is to make us feel bonded to others. Evolutionary psychologists have speculated that this was nature’s way of causing couples to want to stay together after sex to raise any children that might result from that sex.”
Source: The Organized Mind Thinking Straight in the Age of Information Overload
So, there you have it — sex is an enjoyable way to build connection, but it isn’t the only way or the best way. Intimacy is.
OUR EVERYDAY MARRIAGE CHALLENGES
Years ago, while heading to work, I popped my tire. Not once, but twice — in a 15-minute drive. *Facepalm* My job was on this trashy road and I couldn’t help but hit these unavoidable potholes.
Hitting the potholes wasn’t my fault, and when you hit potholes in your marriage, it won’t necessarily be yours either. Or anyone’s fault for that matter.
It’s normal to hit bumps and challenges in your marriage. This happens in any relationship because you are two incredibly different and incredibly beautiful people evolving together.
Here are some everyday challenges aka potholes you will almost indefinitely face! Remember, the bumps don’t automatically make the challenge anyone’s fault.
- Personal inner changes – an emotional issue you’re working through.
- Relational differences – disagreement between partners.
- Environmental influences – your surroundings, including your circle and random people you don’t know.
HOW WE BUILD INTIMACY
As we’ve grown to realize that daily stuff happens, we’ve decided to be more intentional about building intimacy with these four little things that pack a huge punch.
#1 We Do New Things Together | Intimacy is creating new experiences together.
Dante and I do things that are new to both of us.
#2 We’re Committed to Learning Ourselves + Each Other | Intimacy is knowing your partner as they are but also learning your partner as they evolve.
We take assessments to 1) put language to who we are for ourselves and 2) to learn how to be better partners to each other.
#3 We Honor Our Bodies | Intimacy goes beyond sex.
We don’t just rush into sexual Intimacy. We spend time getting to know, honoring, and loving one another.
#4 We Build Trust in Small Moments + Through Vulnerability | Intimacy is having the courage to be yourself.
We are vulnerable with one another, within the realm of romance and beyond.
BONUS TALKING POINTS
Is that it? Nope, we also talk about:
- Sexual equality in marriage
- Defining intimacy
- Explaining the unexplainable mood shifts in relationships
LISTEN NOW
0 Comments